Barney, it may be hard to believe, was an eight-year-old golden retriever. Nicola had a border collie called Basil who barely left her side when she was diagnosed with a brain tumour 13 years ago, for which she underwent surgery and lost her left eye. I’m so proud of you,’ is the message Sarah passes from Barney, at which Nicola nods gratefully.This is normal practice for animal communicators, keeping their costs down and profits up.
I like to think of these as the values that you cannot do without and will make you absolutely uncomfortable and acting out of step with yourself if you don’t respect them.They’re very important and tied to your belief system, so if you improve your self-esteem, your values may shift to accommodate your new beliefs, and likewise, if your self-esteem takes knock, your belief system can change as a result.You’ll realise that a value fits in this category if you place a high value on it yet it doesn’t actually help the relationship to prosper – basically it makes little or no difference because other more important core values are not being met in the relationship.To make it easier, let’s think of your core values as your primary values and everything else as your secondary values.One of the things that people are most confused about and that I get asked a lot of questions about, is the issue of ‘common interests’ and letting superficial things inadvertently get mixed in with your ‘core’ values.
Over the past few days I’ve been talking about value and values in relationships, and in this post, I put a clear division between the nice to have stuff that doesn’t actually cause your relationship to endure unless you have the ‘core’ values covered off.Recuperating at home, Nicola’s parents bought Barney in the hope he would cheer her up. For Nicola, her experience with an animal psychic has been a huge comfort. Then she talked about the mad five minutes Basil and Monty, my cat, had every evening.They’d run around like lunatics — only our family could have told you that.’That Sarah, 43, from Caterham, Surrey, is one of hundreds of animal communicators in the UK speaks volumes about our appetite for spiritualism.This service is run by Live Lines Ltd, a major adult chatline operator with assets of millions of pounds.One person with first hand experience of the process is Dawn Maw, who was inundated with calls after she offered a £10,000 reward for the return of her missing pedigree pointer Angel.If you don’t have them, how will you know if you’re acting in your own best interests? How can you stay you, if you don’t have your core values, the fundamental, absolutely necessary things that help to determine your sense of self and help you feel good and enjoy the good in life?