It’s entirely based on physical attractiveness, and it’s shallow and ridiculous yet incredibly entertaining. You choose attractive photos of yourself, write a short biography, and then begin swiping: right on people you want to match with, left on those you don’t. After never finding it appealing back home, I was convinced by a friend that it would be a good way to make make friends here, as au-pairs are predominantly female.
A French guy’s group of friends are his backbone, and lacking their approval is as much of a dealbreaker as sexual incompatibility.Though most of the men I’ve met have been wonderful, the majority haven’t been looking for a relationship. While many on the app will never initiate conversation or will chat for awhile until one of you decides you’re not interested, the ones who want to see you will ask you out. My friends and I have met many French men through Tinder, and thus have learned a few things about the dating culture as a result: If a Frenchman wants you, you’ll know it. A few of mine include nighttime walks in the rain along the Seine, being kissed on a bridge with the Eiffel Tower behind us, riding around the city on the back of a scooter, and strolling hand in hand on the love lock bridge.
Even if it seems like they’re not feeling it, it’s definitely possible that you’ll still end up having the romantic French encounter you’ve always (not-so-secretly) wanted.I always take care to clarify it with them now, though, after briefly dating a guy who was relationship-minded, about which I wasn’t fully aware until drunkenly asking him outside of a bar at 4 in the morning after we’d been together for a couple of weeks.Yes, it was awkward and could have been avoided had we had the conversation earlier. Others were rather quiet and aloof and then would make their move with an unmistakable gesture—either going in for the kiss at the end of the night or asking for a second date right away. Some dates seemed like they would love to see me again, and then I never heard from them.Here, if you don’t sleep with someone, they take that to mean that you’re not actually interested in them. Wait a bit if you want to make sure he’ll stick around, but don’t wait too long or your Frenchman will assume a lack of compatibility and find someone else.