You may be thinking to yourself, "Hmmm, would men really have nothing to do with women that violated these lists? No one wants to date someone that can't stand on their own two feet in the world. It, and other lists like it, can also be a downer for people that read too far into it. Instead, investigate whether you have some of these traits and simply recognize they may play a factor in your dating world." To which I would respond, "Of course they'd have something to do with the women but that's not the same as them dating the women." This men's list of undesirable traits is eerily similar to that of women's. If they are traits you'd like to address and fix, splendid.But don't make this (or any other list) your primary motivation for doing so.
You get set in your ways, and are no longer willing to make yourself vulnerable in the ways that dating requires, or be open to a new serious romantic relationship.
Many women our age might have had marriages where the man was “in charge” and where we might have felt we were making our own interests and needs subservient to his.
A few women mentioned that they observed many men our age are emotionally damaged and others find that they no longer trust men’s motives.
Others said that the longer you are single, the harder it becomes to fall in love.
Another option is to simply go to the places you love and do the things you love to do.
Any man who shares your interests is likely to be frequenting the same places.
Many women have had success with online dating if they approach it with a positive attitude.
(In fact, according to a study from Bowling Green State University, people over 60 are the fastest-growing age group to use online dating.) Other women have met good men at church or in community organizations, or just while out walking in the park.
So they have started focusing on their own interests, activities and families, regardless of whether they can find “the right man.” Many women our age are having a hard time trusting men – whether due to a painful divorce or a series of disappointing dating experiences.
Many women over 60 find that their sense of confidence is broken and feel disillusioned by men and marriage.
Some women said that they could not imagine being loved again.